Trans guy and his hot date sit down at a restaurant... and the server calls them both "ladies"? OH NO HE DIDN'T!
I get that there’s no way you can tell a butch woman from a trans man, not with all the shit you have to notice and remember.
So all I’m asking (and I tip well — a minimum of 20% after tax) is for you to err on the side of NOT calling me a lady.
Was the server in the wrong? Debate these and the finer points of gender politics right here... and while you're there, why not drop off your own confession or rant in the I, Anonymous Blog? It hates you regardless of gender!